Thunder Farting Leadership (And Other Ways to Change the World): Community Basics

KNU International English Church
May 2, 2010
Josh Broward


Today, we are continuing our series on Community Basics. We come to a basic issue: Leadership. (You’ll have to wait till the end to understand this title. That should keep you interested!)
Leadership is a must in any organization, but we often get confused about what leadership really is. Leadership is influence. Leadership is affecting change. Leaders are not always at the front or at the “top.” Influence and change can come from anywhere in the organization, family, or system. Leadership is not constant. It shifts and moves. Sometimes one person exercises more leadership. Sometimes another person steps forward with a special gift or moment of leadership. Leadership happens in different measures all at the same time. Everyone shares some influence in every environment.
In some ways, we’re all leaders. In fact, there are some basic forms of leadership to which we are all called.

1. EXAMPLE: This is the most fundamental truth of leadership. We are all leaders through our example. People will follow what we do far more than what we say. Paul talks about example again and again and again (e.g. 1 Corinthians 11:1).
If you come late to the worship service, you are leading by example. That example sends a message to others: “This isn’t very important to me. Nothing exciting is really happening here. You should be like me and come late too.”
If you come early to the worship service, you are leading by example. That example sends a very different message: “This is really important to me. I’m excited about what’s going on here. I expect this to be one of the best parts of my week.” If you want to be a leader here, I want to give you a challenge - 10:15. Be here at 10:15. Come early and pray and greet people. That will cause a huge positive influence in our community.

2. ENCOURAGEMENT: To encourage means to give courage to someone. When we encourage others, we are building them up, making them stronger, more hopeful, more able to fulfill their dreams and callings. This is a powerful form of influence. As the book of Hebrews says, “Spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24).
The first church gave one leader the nickname of Barnabas or “Son of Encouragement” (Acts 4:36). He made those around him better and stronger. He helped people in his community become their best, connect with their dreams, and stretch out to fulfill their potential.
LeBron Fairbanks says that the real test of leadership is in the growth of those around us. Are we helping those around us become better and stronger and more able to do whatever they are called to do? If so, then we are effective Christian leaders.
Maybe you don’t have special gifts to be an official leader. You can still lead by encouraging. Encourage our leaders. Tell them that you appreciate what they do. Help them with their projects. Pray for them. Build them up. Give strength to them, and you will be participating in the leadership process.

3. INVITATION: Simply inviting someone else to participate is a form of leadership. Invitations are powerful forces for change.
When Philip met Jesus, the first thing he did was go find Nathanael to tell him about Jesus. Nathanael had doubts, so Philip said, “Come and see for yourself!” (John 1:45-46).
When Jesus met the Samaritan woman at the well, she had been married and divorced 5 times, and she was living with man #6. In a highly religious society, she was the most unlikely of leaders, yet when she said, “‘Come and meet a man who told me everything I ever did’ ... the people came people came streaming from the village to see him” (John 4:29-30).
You can be a leader just by inviting your friends to church or to a party or to join you in a ministry. Invitations are a force for change and a quiet form of leadership.

4. MENTORING: This may surprise you, but everyone is called to be a mentor. Everyone is called to disciple others in the way of Jesus. This is an act of leadership that belongs to all of us. Parents naturally coach their children in the ways of life. Teachers are mentors not only in their content area but also in their attitudes and perspectives on life. We all have a responsibility to be teachers and learners. We all need mentors, and we all need to be mentoring someone else.
Right now, I have two mentors. I email Ron Benefiel, the president of Nazarene Theological Seminary, once or twice a month to talk about ministry issues, and I just started meeting Father Kelvin, an Australian priest who lives in Seoul, for spiritual direction. He’s helping me work through my spiritual life as a pastor.
Who is mentoring you? A fundamental act of leadership is learning. Who is coaching you as a Christian and as a leader? I encourage you to make sure you have a clear mentoring relationship. I will be starting a discipleship and mentoring group this summer. It will be an intense small group, focused on growing together in the heart and practices of Christian leadership. If you’re interested, please talk to me.
Who are you mentoring? This isn’t something that we can put off or deny. Paul tells the older women to look after the younger women, to teach them about life and God. Paul tells the older men to care for the younger men, to guide them in the process of becoming faithful men. (Titus 2; see also 1 Peter 5.)
If you have a position of leadership in our church, who are you training to do your job? Who will do what you are doing next year? Make sure you are mentoring someone to carry on your role. This is important in any church, but in our church with so many people coming and going, this is extremely important!
Jesus was the classic mentor. He did somethings in large groups, but he invested deeply in 12 people. He poured his heart into 3 people (Peter, James, and John). When Jesus died, he had a few hundred followers. That’s not bad for a church, but that’s not exactly earth shaking. However, Jesus had invested so deeply in these key leaders: the 12 and the 3, that they were able to go out and live like him. They were able to lead like him, to serve like him, to love like him, to pray like him, to heal like him. Jesus changed the world by mentoring a few key leaders who could take over when he was gone.
Be like Jesus. Do the same thing. Mentor a few people. Spend time with one of our kids or youth. Coach them in the ways of life and faith and our church. This will change the world.

So far, everything we’ve talked about is for all of us. We can all do these things. We can set an example for others to follow. We can encourage others. We can invite others to join in. We can mentor someone in the ways of life and faith. By engaging in these four basic practices, we can all be leaders on a basic level.

However, some of us have special gifts and skills for leadership. Throughout the Bible, some people are specially equipped to be leaders in unique ways. Some are positional leaders like kings or priests or governors or elders. Others are leaders for a moment or a season like prophets or warriors or advisers. To really understand leadership, we have to understand these special leaders as well.
In our world, the spiritual and the natural often merge. This is especially true in leadership. Leadership involves certain skills and habits, but leadership also involves what Christians call “spiritual gifts.” For now, I’ll call these gifts, but with these gifts come skills that can be developed.
Leadership takes special shape through 6 key gifts. You might have some of these gifts for most of your life, or you might step into one for a moment or a season.

1. SEEING: Some people can see things others can’t see. Sometimes this is getting a vision for what we can do as a church or as an organization. Sometimes, it is seeing a connection between two people or two ideas that don’t seem to go together.
When the church was debating what to do about the Gentiles who had become Christians, James stood up and made a connection between the Old Testament prophet Amos and the current situation (Acts 15:16-17). This is the gift of seeing.

2. SPEAKING: Some people can say things others can’t say. Some people have the ability to say things in a way that moves us to tears or to action or both. Sometimes, the gift of speaking is a carefully timed question. Other times, the gift of speaking is in speaking the truth that everyone knows but no one is willing to say.
After David killed Bathsheba’s husband and took her as his wife, no one would tell the king the truth. But Nathan walked into the palace and spoke the truth to David through a parable so that David could really hear it (2 Samuel 12). This is the gift of speaking.

3. ART: Yes, you heard me. Art is a form of leadership. Let me ask you a question, and if you have the sermon paper, don’t answer! ;) Who was the first person in the Bible who was said to be filled with the Holy Spirit? It wasn’t Moses or Abraham or Adam. It was Bezalel. Who?!? Bezalel. Come on, don’t you know Bezalel?! He should be famous, right? He’s the first person - as far as we know - who was filled with the Spirit of God. So what did he do? Was he a prophet or a priest? A king or a warrior? Maybe a judge? No, none of those. He was an artist.
Seriously. God was giving Moses all of these detailed instructions for how to build God’s first house of worship, and he said, “See, I have chosen Bezalel ... and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of crafts- to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver and bronze, to cut and set stones, to work in wood, and to engage in all kinds of craftsmanship” (Exodus 31:1-5).
Art and beauty are very important to God. God is the first artist. Beauty draws us closer to the heart of God. Art is influential. Good art is a form of leadership.
If you are an artist, you have a unique gift to create beauty or to display beauty. As God’s people, we need you to help us connect with your beautiful God. Using your artistic creativity is a key act of leadership, for art opens our hearts to God’s Spirit - the Author of beauty. If you want to do art here in this church, please talk to me. We are desperately in need of more artistic leadership.

4. ORGANIZATION: Sometimes this is called the gift of administration. Some people look at a big mess of things or ideas or people or tasks and feel overwhelmed. Other people start organizing. OK, this goes with this, and if we do this first, then later that will be much easier. (These are the people with the carefully arranged sock drawers!)
Moses was a great leader. He had courage and hutzpah and the ability to unite people around a common mission, but - bless his heart - he was a terrible organizer. He tried to do all the leading all by himself. People came to him from morning till night with every little problem or dispute, and they were wearing him out.
But Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, had the gift of organization. He said, “Moses, what are you doing? You’ve gotta get organized. Teach some people how to lead and how to settle disputes. Then, appoint them over groups of one thousand, one hundred, fifty, and ten. Then, everyone will be happier.” (See Exodus 18:13-26.)
People with the gift of organization are great at event planning and system organization. We NEED organizers. If you have a well organized sock drawer or other skills at organization, we need you! We need you to step up to the plate and help us plan things and get our systems straightened out.

5. TEAM-BUILDING: Some people don’t seem to have any special skills. They aren’t excellent communicators. They don’t see way into the future. They aren’t especially organized. And yet, they are still great leaders. Why? Because they are able to gather a team of people who have all of those skills.
Maybe you think you don’t have what it takes to lead. That’s OK! You don’t have to “have what it takes.” You just have to find people who do. It’s like cooking. Nobody is the flour and the cinnamon and the sugar and nuts and the chocolate chips. We all have different gifts, and for some people, their special gift is just getting the right people together to bake the cookies.
The apostle Paul had many leadership gifts, but he may also have been a team-builder. Throughout the New Testament Paul is always with someone. Paul is never alone, just doing things by himself. In Romans 16, Paul mentions 34 different people who have worked with him or along side him. Paul seemed to know a basic truth about leadership: Teams are stronger than individuals. Don’t do it alone if you can do it together.

6. CARING: Have you ever been around someone who is an outstanding listener? They make you feel like you’re the only person in the room. They really enjoy just listening to you talk about your feelings, your plans, or your problems. These people probably have the gift of caring. Listening is a deep act of leadership. It may not seem like it, but it’s true. Listening to others and caring about their well-being strengthens them. It helps them to understand what they are thinking and feeling. It proves to them that they are not alone. Someone cares. Someone is with them.
This is what the Bible calls “compassion.” This word “compassion” means literally, “together-suffer.” You don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to solve someone’s problems. Sometimes, your gift of leadership is simply to suffer-with, to listen to the problems and to share the burden emotionally and spiritually.

I want to wrap this up with one Bible passage and one story. First the Bible passage. Paul tells us a lot about leadership and community in Romans 12.
Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.
In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. (Romans 12:3-11)
And here’s the story. Patricia loaned me a children’s book with a traditional Korean story translated into English. It’s called - I’m not kidding! - The Thunder-Farting Daughter-in-Law.
The story begins with EunMi, living together with her husband JunSeok and her father in law MinTaek. The father-in-law notices that EunMi doesn’t seem comfortable around him. She always has a sour look on her face, and she moves awkwardly. So he complains to his son, “Why is EunMi always so grumpy and grim?”
JunSeok laughs and says, “Oh, don’t worry about EunMi. She just has these incredible, horrible farts, so she’s holding it in around you.”
So the old man goes to EunMi and tells her to relax and let her true self out. She tells the old man to brace himself, and she lets out a fart that rocks the house. The old man is shocked, and he says, “Dang girl! You sure can fart! You’ve got something special there.”
Well, things seem to go on as usual for a while, with the addition of the occasional roof shaking fart. Then, a group of merchants travels through their area. EunMi meets them under a persimmon tree. The merchants are looking longingly at the lush persimmons, but they are all out of reach. EunMi offers to get them down for the merchants, and everyone laughs. So EunMi says, “Will you give me all of the silk on that donkey if I can get you all of the persimmons?” The lead merchant takes her bet. He thinks there is no way possible that this mild little lady can scale the tree and get all of the persimmons.
--- And here comes the best part of the story! --- Next, EunMi turns away from the merchants and points her rumpus up in the air at the persimmon tree and lets out a gigantic thunder-fart. The wind and sound from her nuclear fart shake the tree so hard that every last persimmon falls to the ground, and EunMi walks away with the donkey load of silk.
Back at home the husband and father-in-law are overjoyed, for they are now very wealthy. They slap each other on the back and say, “Boy aren’t we lucky to have a thunder-farting woman in our house! We’re sure glad she isn’t holding it in anymore!”

OK, now here’s the application. Are you listening? God has given each of us a gift. It may be organizing or art or speaking or listening or helping others or thunder-farting. (Half of the men are thinking: “Yes! I’ve found my spiritual gift!”) But here’s the deal. Like the thunder farting daughter-in-law, if you hold it in, you’ll be uncomfortable. You’ll always feel like something’s missing, and your community will be missing out on your unique contributions.
Here is the main point about leadership. Use what God has given you. Accept your role as an influencer in our community. Others WILL follow your example, whether you realize it or not. You can encourage others and give strength to them. You can invite others to participate. You can mentor someone younger or newer. Step up and be a leader. Use the gifts God has given you, no matter what they are. And this ... this will change our world.

Reconciliation: Community Basics - Week 2

KNU International English Church
April 18, 2010
Josh Broward


Today we continue our series on the basics of Christian community, and I need to start with a disclaimer. In any church of our size, there are usually some conflicts brewing or hiding below the happy smiles and handshakes. Over the past few months, I have talked with some of you about various kinds of conflicts. Today, you might feel like I’m preaching at you in particular. You might feel like I’m aiming my pastoral guns right at your heart. You need to know that I chose this sermon topic in November of last year, and I already had in mind in November most of what I’m going to say today. This topic isn’t because of you. We’re talking about reconciliation because this is a fundamental issue for Christian community. We always need reconciliation.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
The most important Jewish prayer is about the unity of God: “Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one” (Deuteronomy 6:4). There is one God, one Creator. There is one creation made by one God to live in one whole, loving relationship.
The great tragedy of our world is the breaking of this oneness. We have become fragmented. We are disconnected from God. We are disconnected from others. We are disconnected from our environment. We are disconnected from our very selves.
Jesus died for reconciliation. God died to bring us back to God’s essential oneness - whole and loving relationship.
Reconciliation is the heart of the Gospel. What is broken can be healed. What is separated can be rejoined. Enemies can become friends. Rebels can become sons and daughters again.
Jesus died for reconciliation.

Most of the time, we understand that God wants us to be reconciled to God. Yoni showed us the classic bridge illustration last week. We were separated from God, and Jesus gives us the bridge for reconciliation. Most of the time, we get that. We can be reunited with God because of Jesus.
Jesus died for reconciliation.

But most of the time, we stop there. We stop with being reconciled with God. We stop with asking God to forgive us. We stop with trying not to have problems in our relationship with God. Most of the time, we forget the rest of our relationships. Most of the time, we try to be reconciled with God without worrying about our other conflicts or broken relationships or disconnections.
But Jesus died for reconciliation.
God doesn’t stop. God doesn’t stop with our “spiritual” life. God doesn’t stop with our relationship directly with him. God doesn’t stop with our prayers and Bible reading and church attendance and giving.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
And that includes reconciliation in all of our relationships. That includes reconciliation with our parents, our brothers and sisters, our friends, our bosses, our neighbors, the people who have wronged us, people of other ethnicities, people who think differently from us, people of other religions. Jesus died for reconciliation in all of these relationships as well.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
In his last night before Jesus went to the cross, he prayed for his disciples and for us: “I am praying not only for these disciples but also for all who will ever believe in me because of their testimony. My prayer for all of them is that they will be one, just as you and I are one, Father - that just as you are in me and I am in you, so they will be in us, and the world will believe you sent me” (John 17:20-21). Maybe our biggest problem is not that we’re too old fashioned or too new and liberal. Maybe our biggest problem is not that we don’t know how to communicate or that our music isn’t right. Maybe our biggest problem is that we aren’t one. “My prayer for all of them is that they will be one ... so ... the world will believe you sent me.” Maybe our biggest problem is that we are unreconciled. No wonder people don’t believe our “message of reconciliation.”
Jesus died for reconciliation.
“For Christ himself has brought peace to us. He united Jews and Gentiles into one people when, in his own body on the cross, he broke down the wall of hostility that separated us... He made peace between Jews and Gentiles by creating in himself one new people from the two groups. Together as one body, Christ reconciled both groups to God by means of his death on the cross, and our hostility toward each other was put to death” (Ephesians 2:14-16).
Jesus died for reconciliation.
Human reconciliation is so important to God that he said we can’t be reconciled to him without it. Jesus said, “So if you are standing before the altar in the Temple, offering a sacrifice to God, and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there beside the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God” (Matthew 5:23-24).
Jesus died for reconciliation.
God won’t stop with being reconciled to him. When we are reconciled to God, when we draw close to the heart of God, we find our neighbor there. God loves our neighbor just as much as he loves us. We can’t be close to God and have hostility with our neighbor. It just doesn’t work.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
Remember Jesus’ story of the “unforgiving debtor”? The king forgave a man a huge debt. Then the man wouldn’t forgive a little debt from another man. Then, the king threw the first guy into prison. Jesus said that unless we forgive our brothers and sisters from our hearts, God won’t forgive us. (Matthew 18:21-35).
Jesus died for reconciliation.
But it’s even more difficult than that. Jesus said that even if people sin against us, it’s our responsibility to “go privately and point out the fault” so that we can “win the person back” (Matthew 18:15-17). Even if we didn’t do anything wrong, we still have to work toward reconciliation.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
So understand this clearly, if you hurt someone else, it’s your job to go and make it right. It’s your job to work for reconciliation in that relationship. You can’t just ignore the problem and be faithful to Jesus.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
In the same way, if someone else hurts you or sins against you or is breaking apart our community, it’s your job to work for reconciliation in that relationship. You can’t just ignore the problem and be faithful to Jesus.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
This is not some optional addition to the Christian faith. Reconciliation is at the heart of the Gospel. The Gospel is at the heart of reconciliation. Because God has forgiven us so much, we can forgive those who have hurt us. Because God has reconciled the world to himself, because God is making us all one in Christ, we can’t allow any rifts or brokenness to continue in our relationships. The Gospel is reconciliation. The Gospel is reconciliation between God and people and between people and people.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
Jesus said the two most important commandments are: “'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind' ; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself’” (Luke 10:27). Sometimes we think of this as vertical and horizontal. Love God (vertical). Love people (horizontal). Sometimes we think that if we have a problem here on the horizontal line, that doesn’t really mean anything on the vertical line.
But what Jesus describes is really more of a circle than two separate lines. There’s this big circle of love flowing between God and us and others. If there is a problem anywhere in this circle, then there is a problem in the whole circle.
Jesus died for reconciliation.
Maybe that’s why Jesus said, “Leave your sacrifice at the alter and go and be reconciled to your brother.” Maybe that’s why Jesus taught us to pray, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who have sinned against us” (Matthew 6:12). If there’s a problem anywhere in the circle, then there’s a problem with the whole circle. God has made us to be one.
Jesus died for reconciliation.

God has made us to be one, but sometimes we get confused about what that reconciliation really means. Many times we settle for substitutes of reconciliation.
Reconciliation does not mean sameness. We don’t have to dress the same, look the same, think the same, believe the same, vote the same, and act the same. Oneness is something different from sameness.
Jesus died for reconciliation, not sameness.
Reconciliation does not mean agreement. We are just going to disagree about some things. We may even disagree about some important things. But reconciliation means that we can still be one even though we disagree. We can be one in mission, one in mutual respect and love, one in following Jesus.
Jesus died for reconciliation, not agreement.
Reconciliation does not mean silence. Oneness does not mean never talking about our conflicts. Sometimes, when someone starts talking about conflict, others say something like, “Sssshhh! What are you doing?! Don’t disrupt the peace.” There’s no peace there. There’s just silence. Sometimes the only way to bring peace is to open up the conflict that is there under the silence.
Jesus died for reconciliation, not silence.
Reconciliation does not mean “kiss and makes up.” It’s not like we can just push people together like kids and make them hug and then everything is all better. We’ve all seen kids do the “kiss and make up” thing. Maybe that’s a step, but it’s not reconciliation. Sometimes reconciliation involves restitution or system modification. Sometimes, we have to go through the hard work to talk about what it will take for us to figure out how to become one again. What will it take for everyone to feel respected and cared for in this relationship? Sometimes, that’s hard, and sometimes it takes time to figure out what the solutions are.
Jesus died for reconciliation, not false peace.

Jesus died for reconciliation, and these half-way substitutes of reconciliation will never be enough for Jesus.

Let’s talk a little about the most common mistakes we make regarding reconciliation. These are the six NEVERS of reconciliation.
NEVER: ignore it. It won’t go away. Ignoring conflict is like ignoring cancer.
Jesus died for reconciliation; don’t ignore broken relationships.

NEVER: just pray about it. Yes, pray. That’s good. But then take action.
Jesus died for reconciliation; don’t pray and do nothing to solve the problem.

NEVER: gossip. Don’t go around talking about your conflict or other people’s conflict. Keep it to yourself unless you are seeking advice for reconciliation in a private setting.
Jesus died for reconciliation; don’t spread the brokenness around.

NEVER: talk to others instead of the person you’re really mad at. If you come to me with a conflict, the first thing I’m going to say is: “Did you talk to the other person?”
Jesus died for reconciliation; go to your brother and be reconciled.

NEVER: start angry. Wait until you are calm - even if that means walking out of the room and coming back later.
Jesus died for reconciliation; wait until your heart is ready for reconciliation.

NEVER: send an email. Email is a terrible way to resolve conflict. It almost never helps. It almost always makes it worse. Go to the person directly, face to face if possible. If you think you won’t be able to say what you need to say, then write a letter and bring it with you.
Jesus died for reconciliation; don’t send an email. Email is for chickens.


So what is real reconciliation? What does it mean to be children of the Gospel of reconciliation? What does real reconciliation look like? How do we do reconciliation well?
Admitting our own wrongs. Jesus said, “First get rid of the log in your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your own eye” (Matthew 7:5). Reconciliation begins with our own admission of guilt. Sure maybe we didn’t do the wrong this time, but we’ve sure been in the wrong other times. And, if we are really honest, we probably share part of the guilt this time, too.
Remember, Jesus died for reconciliation. It’s worth it.

Honest and personal discussion of the conflict. We actually have to talk about it. There’s no other way. We have to talk about what happened and why it hurt. We may not agree about everything. We might have different recollections of what actually happened. That’s OK. The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. The important thing is that both people feel heard and understood.
Remember, Jesus died for reconciliation. It’s worth it.

Forgiveness. After we understand the conflict, we need to forgive the other person and ask forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we agree. Forgiveness means that we aren’t going to hold this conflict against each other. We aren’t going to let this ruin our relationship.
Remember, Jesus died for reconciliation. It’s worth it.

Restitution. We can be tempted to stop with forgiveness, but we also need to do the even harder work of repairing the damage and working to keep it from happening again. Without restitution, we will quickly return to the same conflicts. Restitution helps us change our ways.
Remember, Jesus died for reconciliation. It’s worth it.


Jesus died for reconciliation. Jesus died so that we could be one with God and one with each other.
Jesus died for reconciliation. Now, as followers of Jesus, he calls us to live for reconciliation. We have to be honest. This is a difficult way to live. But we also have to be honest and hopeful. This is a beautiful way to live, and this will change the world!

Questions:
When have you broken some of the “NEVERS of Reconciliation”?
Do you have an active conflict with someone?
Do you have some old conflicts that were never resolved?
How can you seek reconciliation today? What can you do TODAY to reconcile with someone?

Easter 2010 - Stories of Resurrection

Josh Broward
April 4, 2010

1 Corinthians 15:12-20

SoYoung’s Story
Gu SoYoung was my friend and neighbor. She was Emma’s piano teacher. She was a member of our church’s Advisory Council. She went with us to Tanzania in 2008. She was beautiful, and she loved beauty. She was an outstanding piano player, and she taught herself how to play the violin at the age of 30. She loved new foods and new experiences. She was full of joy and life. Her smile was always contagious.
In the last months of 2008, SoYoung began having stomach aches and digestive problems. In January of 2009, she was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer. There was nothing the doctors could do. Her health declined quickly over the next few months.
SoYoung spent the last month or so in a hospice out in the countryside on the east side of Cheonan. As we drove out to visit her, we could see the trees and fields and flowers slowly emerging with the new life of spring, and yet, each day, we also watched the life fade out of our dear friend.
SoYoung died on the morning of April 4 at about 6 a.m. Sarah and I quickly went out to the hospice to join the family. We passed the word to the church, and we held a quiet memorial service at the funeral home on Sunday night.
That was a difficult and extremely painful season for her family and for many in our church. Many of us still miss SoYoung deeply.
This winter has been one of the longest winters I can remember. Many people have said that it feels like winter will never end. The gray skies, cold weather, and snow have seemed to last forever. Just when we think they are gone, they come back again.
Our world is in a long winter of death. Death was never part of God’s plan, but it is here, and we can’t stop it for now. Sometimes, the gray skies and pains of death seem like they will last forever. Just when we think they are gone, they come back again. Someone else dies. We lose another loved one. There is another senseless killing or disease. This long winter of death seems like it will go on forever. It seems like we will never escape all of this dying and waiting for more dying.
Last week, it was still cold. I was wearing my winter coat, and I had my hands shoved into my pockets because they felt like ice. I was walking past the Owens Building, and I saw something that encouraged my heart.
I saw the first buds of spring. They weren’t much, but they were there. They were the magnolia blossoms. They were these gray, green, fuzzy blossoms on the ends of bare tree branches. Everywhere around me looked cold and dead, but there were these magnolia buds. There was unmistakable proof that spring is in fact coming. Spring is coming! Winter will not last forever. The warm weather will come. The life will return. The trees will burst into flowers. The grass will turn green. The bushes will fill with leaves. Azaleas will set our campus ablaze with bright starbursts of pink and orange and red. Life is coming back!
Our world is in a long winter of death. Sometimes it feels like our world is cold and dying. Jesus is like the first bud of spring. Jesus is the first sign of new life to break through our winter. Jesus is “the first fruits of the resurrection.” Jesus is “the firstborn from the dead.” Jesus has broken through the cold chains of death. He has burst into our world of wintery death with the spring of new life.
We believe in the resurrection of the dead. SoYoung will be raised again on the last day, and all who die in Christ will be raised with Christ. Jesus is the resurrection and the life, and all who live in him will always live even though they die. We may not feel it now. We may still feel cold and sad, but we can look at Jesus and see unmistakable evidence that spring is coming. Life is coming. Winter will not last forever. The Spring of eternal life is breaking through to our world. Someday, our world will be blooming with great flowers of life all over the place. Life is coming, and death can’t stop it!


Luke 23:44-46, 55-56; 24:1-9

Eta’s Story: A Story of Hope (Matt)

Have you ever been at a place in your life where you think everything is lost when you are completely hopeless? When you cannot even dare to hope that things will get better. This is how the disciples felt when Jesus died. They were heartbroken and scared.

And this is how Eta felt. She is an African student here at Korea Nazarene University; in the Owens International College. She had no money to keep going to school, and no hope. Then, KNU remembered that our church gives a scholarship for the university, and they gave our scholarship to her. It helped her a great deal. She was able to stay in school. Here is the letter she wrote us:

A LETTER OF THANKS AND APPRECIATION: I wish to say thank you for your tremendous contribution to my studies this semester. You gave me hope when all hope was lost. To say I am happy will be an understatement. Rather, I am overwhelmed with joy. May the Lord Almighty continue to bless you and all your endeavors. You have impacted my life in a very special way. Once again, thank you. Yours sincerely, Eta
When we can give hope, then our church can follow in Jesus’ footsteps. We get to give hope to those who have no hope - just like Jesus gave us the ultimate hope when he arose from the dead.


Isaiah 65:17-25

Country X Story (For security reasons, we cannot publish the name of this country.)

Sometimes terrible things happen. No matter where you live, sometimes life goes wrong. Sometimes, the people you love the most die. Sometimes, there is nothing you can do about it. It happens to us. It happens to people in every culture in every nation on earth.
For most of us, when the terrible things happen, we have a circle of support to help us through that dark time. We can turn to our family and friends for emotional or financial support. For most of us, when the terrible things happen, we have a reserve of savings we can rely on to keep us going while we grieve. For most of us, we have enough skills and training to survive in the market place - even if we were to suddenly find ourselves completely alone.
However, this is not the case for many, many women and children in Country X. When terrible things happen there, terrible follows terrible. If a husband dies, his wife is socially condemned. In addition to dealing with the grief of the loss of her closest companion, her lover, and her provider, she must also cope with her society’s belief that she is somehow guilty for her husband’s death. She is considered cursed or bad luck. Often, her own family rejects her - out of fear that she will bring bad luck to their own homes.
Most widows have no financial savings. Whatever resources the husband owned are passed on to the husband’s family. This leaves the widow with nothing. To make matters even worse, most widows have no marketable skills and no training. Most are unable to find a job that provides enough resources to care for themselves and their children.
A widow in Country X is often faced with a choice between three difficult options:

• The “best” option is to become a household servant. This provides the most stability. At least she will eat. However, she becomes little better than a slave, and she can be subject to beatings and sexual abuse.
• The “independent” option is to roam the streets as a beggar. She is homeless and dirty and without protection, but she’s free. However, she may go days or weeks without eating.
• After trying the independent option for some time, and growing tired of an empty stomach, she may decide to leverage her last remaining resource - her body. Many widows decide that the would rather be prostitutes than starve.

Unfortunately, all three of these options usually mean that the widow is completely unable to care for her children. Children are not usually welcome in a household servant role or in a brothel. As a beggar, she may lose her children to the streets or release them to fend for themselves.
Children who have lost their fathers face circumstances of unimaginable difficulty. They have lost their provider and protector. They have lost their anchor in the world and their shelter from the rain and pain of life. They are usually thrust into the world helpless and alone. All opportunities for education are permanently lost. Regular food and safe places to sleep quickly become distant memories. Many orphans face similar choices as widows. If they are “lucky,” they can become household servants. If they cherish their freedom, they can gamble their lives on the streets as beggars or petty thieves. If they are unlucky, they maybe sold or stolen as sex slaves or child laborers. All of these options leave them helpless and hopeless.
To be a widow or an orphan in Country X is to have your life stolen by death. It is to have your future stolen by your unfortunate past. To be a widow or orphan in Country X is to have life stripped away day after day after day - leaving you a decomposing human being who still breathes and talks. To become a widow or orphan in Country X is to die years before you go to your grave.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Death for the father doesn’t have to mean death for the whole family. Christians in Country X are beginning to change their culture, little by little, one widow, one orphan, one village at a time.
Nazarene Compassionate Ministries is building a village for widows and orphans near the city of Y in northwest Country X. There will be a community center, for education for the kids and the widows. There will be a central rice paddy that will be farmed by Nazarene laymen. There will be 50 houses around the village, and each house will hold 2 widows and 5-7 orphans in a new blended family. Each house will have its own vegetable garden, and each widow will learn skills to earn enough income to support their new families. Each of the children will be able to go to school and eat regular meals.
The land for this village is already purchased, and the building permits are currently being secured. Over the next year, the Nazarene leaders there will build the community center and the first houses. This village will give new life to about 150 orphans. They won’t have to choose between bad and worse. Instead, they will be protected and empowered to choose between good and better.
Our church has formed a long term partnership with this village. We hope our partnership will be marked by:

• mutual giving, sharing, and learning
• transparency
• commitment
• empowerment
• holism (care for body, mind, and soul)
• regular communication
• friendship
• prayer.

We expect the core components of our partnership to include:

• construction projects
• child sponsorship
• economic empowerment projects
• prayer partnership
• outreach to people from Country X living in Cheonan.

Over time, we may also be able to add:

• local education projects
• scholarships for students from Country X to study at KNU
• clean water projects
• micro-financing for small business development
• infrastructure development for the village (such as adding internet access).

This past winter was unusually cold, and many people in Country X died from the cold weather.
Our church gave 1,000,000 won to pay for blankets for all of the widows and orphans who will live in our village. Thanks to your generous giving, they were able to stay warm at night. We now have pictures from the day when they gave our blankets to the widows and orphans who are waiting to live in our village.
Because of our church’s partnership with Nazarenes in Country X, this woman will not have to become a beggar. Instead, she can tend a vegetable garden and help care for some orphans who have lost their mothers and fathers.
Because of your generous giving, this girl will not be forced into prostitution. Because you are giving, she will not be robbed of her innocence for the price of a cup of coffee. Because you are giving, she will laugh and play and go to school and eat when she is hungry.
Because of your generous giving, this woman will not become a household slave. Because of your giving, she will learn how to weave the cloth for that beautiful sari she is wearing. She will sell her products in the city market and earn enough money to support her children and the other children who are entrusted to her blended household.
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Because of your generous giving, and because our brothers and sisters in Country X are giving their lives to care for the poor in their midst, these women and children are given new life. A new spring of beautiful flowers is budding in the midst of their long and dark winter of death. Because you are giving, Jesus is becoming real to them.

God raised Jesus from the dead, and God is still raising people from the dead today. God is giving new life to people who have lost all hope. God is raising us from the death of consumerism and isolation. God is using us to raise others from the death of hopelessness, starvation, and abuse. Christ is risen! And Christ is still giving new life in us and through us!

Love (Christian Basics: Week 6)

March 28, 2010
Josh Broward


Throughout the Season of Lent, we have been thinking and talking about the Christian basics. What does it really mean to be a Christian? Well, here in our last week, we come to the most basic part of being a Christian: love. Love is the goal of Christianity. Our mission is to be a loving community that changes our world, and the first part of our vision is to be renewed by God’s love so that we love God, ourselves, and others. Love is fundamental to who we are as Christians and as members of this church.
I love how John Wesley explains this: “If you look for anything more than love, you are looking wide of the mark, you are getting out of the royal way, and when you are asking others, ‘Have you received this or that blessing?’ if you mean anything but more love, you mean wrong; you are leading them out of the way, and putting them upon a false scent. Settle it then in your heart, that ... you are to aim at nothing more than that love described in [1 Corinthians 13]. You can go no higher than this, till you are called to” heaven.1
Well, then, let’s read 1 Corinthians 13:

1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! 9 Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.
11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. 13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
Of all the Christian basics, love is the greatest. Love is more important than faith or the Bible or hope or anything else. Love is supreme. Without a life filled with love, everything else is beside the point. Everything God wants for us is summarized in one word: love.
Then, why do we find it so difficult to love? Why is it so hard to be patient and kind? Why is it that, no matter how much we pray, we still find ourselves being jealous or boastful or proud? Why do we demand our own way? Why are we so irritable with each other? Why do we keep mental records of the wrongs others have done to us - especially our bosses? Why do we give up on relationships so easily? Why do we find ourselves turning again and again toward selfishness and away from love?

Because we are buried alive. Our true selves are buried deep within us. Our true selves hold our deepest dreams and joys. Our true selves carry our pain and longing and hope and fear. But that is so incredibly scary to us, that we bury ourselves. We push our true selves way down deep within us - far below the surface. And we pile on the dirt. We pile on busyness. We pile on music and computers and games and work and laundry. Anything - so that we don’t have to face who we really are. Anything - so that we don’t have to face what we really feel. Anything - so that we don’t have to think about what we really want and who we really are. We are buried ... deep ... deep ... deep in the ground.
And when our true selves are buried that deep, then our true selves cannot be changed. All of that dirt not only keeps true selves buried, but it also keeps God away. It keeps God out of our heart of hearts. It keeps God away from who we really are.
So we pray, and we go to church, and we ask God to change us, but we only give God access to the surface of who we are. God can only work on the “tip of the iceberg.” The rest of us is buried deep inside us. Our hearts - the deepest parts of our hearts are off limits to God and to us. We don’t even know what is in there. Most of the time, we don’t even know the deep pains and joys that are buried in our hearts. We don’t even know who we are. If we want to know God, we’ve got to start by knowing ourselves. If we want to love others, we’ve got to understand and love ourselves.
This is not “New Age pop-psychology.” This is “Old Time Religion.” This is really, really, old-time religion.

• About 150 years after Jesus, Iraneus said, “The glory of God is a human being fully alive.”
• In the late 300’s AD, John Chrysostom (bishop of Constantinople) preached, “Find the door of your heart, you will discover it is the door of the Kingdom of God.”
• In 400 A.D. Augustine wrote: “How can you draw close to God when you are far off from your own self? ... Grant, Lord, that I may know myself that I may know you.”
• Around 1300, Master Eckhart said: “No one can know God who does not first know himself.”
• In the 1500’s Teresa of Avila wrote, “Almost all problems in the spiritual life stem from a lack of self-knowledge.”
• About the same time, John Calvin the Swiss reformer, said: “Our wisdom ... consists almost entirely of two parts: knowledge of God and of ourselves. But as these are connected together by many ties, it is not easy to determine which of the two precedes and gives birth to the other.”

Jesus said what God wants is simple. Love God with all of yourself, and love your neighbor as yourself. Here is the simple truth. To love God and to love people, we have to bring out our true selves. We can’t love God with everything we are if we don’t even know what’s going on deep within us. We can’t love our neighbors well if something deep within us is driving us to be irritable and impatient and unkind. We’ve got to bring our true selves out into God’s light so that God can heal us with his love.

How do we do this? Well, really this is a life-long journey. The Christian way is all about stripping off our “old false” selves and learning to let our “new true” selves live and shine out God’s love. Let me suggest four basic practices that will help us live out God’s love from deep within our true hearts.

1. Slow down. In his book, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazzero says, “Almost everyone is busy. Whether a teenager or a senior citizen, a mom at home with small children or a corporate executive, a teacher or a student, rich or poor, Christian or not, we are overscheduled, tense, frantic, preoccupied, fatigued, and starved for time.”
If we ever want to know our true selves, then we have got to get away and alone. We have to spend time with ourselves - just us and God. Silence and solitude are key ingredients for knowing ourselves and being changed by God. SLOW DOWN! Slow down and quietly reflect with God on what is going on in your heart and live. This will radically change your life.

2. Stop pretending. Many of us go through life thinking that negative emotions are bad. We think it’s wrong to be sad or angry or afraid, so we bury those feelings. We pretend we aren’t feeling what we are in fact feeling. We push it down. We cover it up. We bury it. ... We bury ourselves. Peter Scazzero explains it like this: “When we deny our pain, losses, and feelings year after year, we become less and less human. We transform into empty shells with smiley faces painted on them.”
Be honest about what you are feeling. Ask yourself why you feel that way. Ask yourself how that connects with your past history. It’s OK to feel angry or sad or lonely or anxious or afraid. But ask yourself what is really going on. Dig a little whole and let your true self speak about what is really happening within you. In their book The Cry of the Soul, Dan Allender and Tremper Longman challenge us: “Ignoring our emotions is turning our back on reality. Listening to our emotions ushers us into reality. And reality is where we meet God ... Change comes through brutal honesty and vulnerability before God.”

3. Follow your heart. Yes, of course, not everything that feels right is right. I know that. You know that. But what we forget is that our hearts know things that our minds can’t express. Listen to your heart. Let the real you shine through. Who are you really? What are your real dreams? What are you deeply passionate about? Find the answers to those questions. Live from those passions and dreams, and you will live close to the God who put those passions in you.

4. Love boldly. I just finished reading The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. I know ... I know ... that’s not a very manly book to read. But I’ll be honest. I loved it! This book tells the story of a group of women who are learning how to be themselves and who are passionate about loving each other boldly. Don’t be shy with your love. Give hugs. Give kisses. Give compliments. Laugh together. Cry together. Spend time together. The true you longs to love and be loved. God made us for love. When we love, we live close to God. In fact, as 1 John says, “If we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us” (1 John 4:12).

In the 18th and 19th centuries, there were repeated outbreaks of cholera. One of the symptoms of cholera is a drastic drop in blood pressure. Sometimes, in fact, a sick person’s blood pressure would drop so low that they appeared to be dead. This is what gave rise to the classic Monty Python quip, “I’m not dead yet.” In efforts to keep sanitary conditions, people were promptly buried after death. However, it sometimes happened that people would actually be buried alive. Later, when their blood pressure rose again, they faced a horrifying death of suffocation inside their own casket.
As an attempt to solve this problem, in some places a new tradition emerged. People were buried with a small rope running from their coffin to a bell in the graveyard. That way if they woke up, they could ring the bell to tell people that they were actually alive. Then, the towns people could come and dig them out.
We have buried ourselves alive. Our true selves are deep within us longing to get out. God is ringing the bell of our hearts asking us to go deeper. God is working within us, trying to get us to dig down so that he can set us free. God wants to set the real us free so that we can love and be loved. This is what the Christian life is all about.
Let God love you. Let God love the real you - deep inside. Then, we will be set free to love God with all that we are. We’ll be set free to love and to be loved with boldness and joy and life.